And the Reason Why It's Worth It
Thursday, December 24, 2009 at 12:16PM The other day, I complained about the annoying parts about being pregnant. I'm sure that list of things will continue to grow as the months pass, as evidenced by stories from other mommies I know, books I read, the comments below & comments I received from friends on Facebook...
"oh sweetheart, you are not so big at all. i was 164 the day i gave birth to my son and then the day i gave birth to my daughter i was 225 lol.... and i am still trying to loose weight but with the kids, there are a lot more things important than my looks or weight. and you are going to love it after it is over... you are going to be glad it is over, but love how you were when you were pregnant"
"You look beautiful! And the quicker you realize people are RUDE,the better off you'll be. I was constantly asked If I was sure I wasn't carrying twins. Or this one I loved," are you sure your only 6 months cause you look like your going to pop" or my favorite...." wow you still have 2 months left?! I wasn't that big when I gave birth". No matter ... See Morewhat dumb, insensitive people say, it was all worth it ( all 59 pounds). K so I was so swollen when I got home from delivering my son I HAD GAINED 6 POUNDS! How do u have an 8 lb baby and gain 6 lb??!? You look wonderful and try to enjoy every second!"
"I get negative comments all the time; it's frustrating, but I just try to let it not bother me. There are some people in my family that always have something to say about my weight- whether I'm pregnant or not. And then, of course, there are the sweet old ladies at church. Oh, my overweight grandfather said to me this past weekend, "So, um, has ... your doctor said anything to you about appropriate weight gain?" I could've smacked him. But my dr. says I'm on track, and in my What to Expect book, I look like the lady in the picture, so I feel like I'm fine. I personally think you look gorgeous, and I'm SO happy for you. :) Hey, try smacking a nosy stranger, and let me know if it feels good. :)"
"I feel you on not wanting to ask for help. I get fussed at all the time for doing things that I shouldn't have done. I would like to know just who is going to do the things that need to get done. Good luck in your adventure. It is amazing, and the end result is life-changing:)"
Being present for my sister's natural birth was the most beautiful moment I have ever experienced.
So I've had a tiny glimpse of how magnificent mine will be.
I'm completely aware that it will be the most pain I will ever go through, but I welcome it because of the joy that will come next. So likewise, now I am living through occasional unpleasantness, but I am happy about it because of the prize that it will bring.
But I think it's still okay to bitch every once in awhile, for the sake of remembering the storm before the rainbow. So I will do just that when it's especially bad and when I need validation that I'm not the only one.
And I will still very much appreciate the good comments way more than the rude ones.
Like all the comments above. Like when this adorable client of mine referred to my baby bump as teeny tiny. A long lost friend of mine visiting for the holidays said it was so little & cute. And then, as if he knew I needed to hear it (he hasn't read this blog yet), Marcus told me that I was a very sexy pregnant lady.
I know that some of our weight gain is in our control and that sometimes we make the wrong decisions with food & lack of exercise. But now more than ever in our insecure lives, we need to be & are allowed to be told that we are beautiful. So thank you to all the women & men out there who know & practice that pregnant girl rule.
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